According to therapist Sana Powell, who shares a lot of advice on psychology and mental well-being on her Instagram account, self-sabotage is described as doing things that go against the inner self’s goals and efforts to succeed.
But how can we fight against this kind of behavior that can destroy our lives?
According to the professional, in order to put an end to self-sabotage, which can be concretely manifested through procrastination, contacting people from the past who should stay in the past or drinking alcohol, it is possible to break this negative cycle. How? Following some advice.
#1 Identify the inner fears that make you behave this way
#2 Remember that you are perfect just the way you are and that you deserve the best
# 3 Know your strengths and successes
#4 Accept that it’s okay not to have control over everything
#5 Remember that there is no need to be ashamed or afraid of failure, it is natural and allows you to grow
The expert also specifies that it is important to deconstruct the beliefs you have about yourself, because they are the ones that lead to self-sabotage: “And that can take time. Be patient with yourself if you find it difficult to make these changes.”
Self-sabotage can also be present in a relationship, which manifests itself in particular: denying the first step, ignoring the calls and messages of the person you love, avoiding meetings with your partner’s family, refusing to marry the person you love, being unfaithful…
In love, this behavior can be explained by several causes, such as difficult periods in childhood, trauma, fear, reproduction of the relationship…
Simply put, self-sabotage is a form of unconscious protection, which ends up doing us more harm (suffering) than good (love). In order to get rid of it, it is important to talk about it with your partner, to let go and take matters into your own hands, following the above-mentioned tips, and if necessary: accompanied by a specialist, such as a psychotherapist.
Source: www.sitoireseto.com
