Have you ever wondered what your ex REALLY thinks of you as a lover? Or what was the REAL reason you broke up?
Unless you remain good friends and have the courage to ask, we will rarely find out the answers to these questions.
Until now.
I asked three women, with very different relationships with their exes, to reach out and ask them to reveal everything.
Spill the dirt on what they honestly thought about their relationship and sex life.
The results were fascinating.
Ana, 40, dated Marko for a year
“I had a relationship with Mark when I was 38 years old. He was the most handsome man I had ever been with and I was mesmerized by him. He left me because we fought all the time. I was heartbroken, but in the end we became friendly acquaintances.’
MARK’S VERDICT
Sex: ‘I remember the first time we had sex. I took your clothes off and caressed you all over, and you just sat back and watched me admire you. It was sexy at the time, but it was a hint of things to come. I feel that our sex was mostly about me pleasing you.
I liked that you were honest about what you like and don’t like, although I bet a lot of guys are freaked out by how direct you are. I also like that you like oral sex: I loved looking up at your orgasm. You really lose yourself in sex. The sex we had in the beginning was pretty amazing, thinking about it now.
Enthusiasm waned on both sides towards the end, but that’s because we were fighting all the time. It’s a shame that we didn’t ‘make up with sex after the fight’ because there were so many fights that there would have been a lot.’
Relationship: ‘You already know I ended it because the constant fighting was making me physically sick. It’s okay to be up and screaming at each other at three in the morning when you’re in your early twenties, but not when you have a job.
To be brutally honest – and you’re not going to like this – it wasn’t our fights that broke me, it was your drinking. Drinking caused arguments. Every fight we had happened when you were drunk. We would be happy and nice one minute, and after that third or fourth glass of wine, you would turn into an angry girl. I know you feel insecure in your relationship because your parents both had affairs, but it’s not my fault what happened. If you’d cut down on your drinking – or better yet, give it up – I’d stick around. I didn’t ask you to because I knew what your answer would be – no way!’
ANA’S ANSWER:
“I wasn’t surprised when I read his answer about how I was in bed: several lovers had hinted at the same thing. Basically, that I’m sexually selfish. But I had no idea that my drinking was such a big part of why we broke up! It makes me sad. If he had told me that then, we probably could have fixed the relationship. I feel uncomfortable that he calls me out for it, but I am aware that I have a problem with alcohol and that I have already cut down a lot.’
Lila (34) had a casual relationship with Bojan
“Bojan and I had a relationship during isolation. We started as friends and obediently kept our distance, but we always hung out on the sofa. It was weird: He got to second base and then got up and left, just when things were getting hot and exciting. I couldn’t figure out why. I thought maybe he just didn’t like me.
One night he stayed and revealed the biggest penis I’ve ever seen. (His nickname among my friends is ‘Big Banana’). It was so big that it never became fully inflated. When we had penetrative sex, which was rare, it felt like he was pushing Munchmellow into the parking lot. Everything was so awkward! He would use one hand and try to push him in. He wasn’t comfortable talking about any of this, so we never were.
We liked each other quite a bit, but not enough to keep seeing each other after the lockdown was lifted.’
BOJAN’S VERDICT
Sex: ‘I never knew if you loved me sexually or not. I struggle a bit with sex. I have to feel that the woman is really in love with me – that she really wants to be there – before I relax and enjoy myself. I’m physically safe: my penis is bigger than most, so I don’t have to worry about it. But I worry that the rest of my body doesn’t match. I know you’ve dated hot guys in the past and I was aware that my stomach was turning. I’m not sure if you were faking an orgasm the whole time. Are you?’
Relationship: “We met during the pandemic and I doubt we would ever become anything other than friends under normal circumstances. I thought I was more in love with you than you were with me and I didn’t try to see you after the lock was lifted because I thought it was just an arrangement. We laughed a lot though and I miss you.’
LILA’S ANSWER: ‘It’s interesting that he thought his big penis was a plus when it made things awkward! He’s probably right, the relationship was a bit the other way around, but I didn’t care that he was carrying covid kilos – I had them too. And he understood me: yes, I faked an orgasm for a while.’
Jasmina, 28, was with her husband Petra for nine years
“I didn’t speak to my ex-husband for four years after we split up, but now we’ve reconciled for the sake of our two little girls. I am honestly intrigued by what he will say on both points. I guess I was the one who stopped having sex and that’s why it’s my fault that everything turned out badly.
I would say that we broke up because we had children too soon. I’m not sure why we didn’t wait a bit. We both love our girls, so maybe it doesn’t matter in the end.’
PETER’S JUDGMENT
Sex: ‘Everything was fun and playful for the first few years. She would wear nice underwear, we would watch porn, try various poses. You used to like me to do it from behind. Four years and two children later, I was on top, with no kissing and no enthusiasm on your part. You didn’t even look at me during sex.
I know this happens in most relationships after kids, but because we had such great sex in the beginning, I felt extra robbed. I know you were tired of taking care of your daughters, but you didn’t even offer a slightly different “smoking”. You told me to be brutally honest, so I will be. I never liked your “smoking”! I know you thought you were great at what you did, so I didn’t have the heart to tell you that your technique just didn’t work for me.’
Relationship: “Everything was great until the children came. Then I felt like you were blaming me for everything: for the horrible pregnancies and births, the days without sleep, without time for ‘me’. I think you resented me for being able to run away and go to work, but I felt the pressure too, just in a different way. I worried about money all the time. I wish we could have made it for the kids, but I think it’s worked out pretty well now, all things considered.’
ANSWER FROM JASMINA
“I’m annoyed by the comment about ‘smoking’ because I’ve never pretended to be good at it. I think I mentioned once that my ex liked me to do it to him, but that was the extent of it. Why didn’t he speak up if he didn’t like what I was doing? By the way, he never offered me oral sex without strings attached. Dissatisfaction is mutual.
His response about the relationship is exactly what I would expect him to say. No surprises, because I’ve heard it all before. We always competed in ‘who is worse?’ games.
Source: www.sitoireseto.com
