Are you feeling tired? We can guess the answer is yes. We all feel tired, and we know few people who answer this question differently. So the question arises: what does it actually mean to be tired? Why are we tired – and what kind of tiredness do we feel? It seems that the answer is, in fact, one that comes from psychotherapists.
“We all work very hard, all the time: to survive, to take care of our homes, families and friends; we face financial worries; we live with medical conditions. Some of that hard work goes into building a better life,” says Moya Sarner, a psychotherapist in the UK.
On the other hand, there is another type of work that many of us do that has the opposite effect. It is satisfying to feel the pain in the muscles after a pilates class, a session of swimming in the sea.
“Sometimes I feel a different kind of fatigue come over me”
“Sometimes I feel a different kind of fatigue that comes over me. I feel it most acutely when I am with my psychoanalyst. It is a deep weariness, a kind of surrender. In my experience, these emotions are the most tiring to repress, but everything consumes energy, and often we don’t even know we’re doing it,” adds Moya Sarner.
This type of fatigue does not go away with sleep or rest. In fact, it seems to be getting worse. Unlike the fatigue that follows physical exercise or invigorating activity, this exhaustion comes from an inner stifling. It’s the kind of tiredness a plant feels when it doesn’t get enough water or light. A wither, fittingly The Guardian.
What do we do when sleep doesn’t solve the problem?
“So if sleep doesn’t help, what does? Well, recovery from this kind of fatigue is possible, but also painful. It involves developing the ability to feel better – that is, to improve our ability to feel, allowing our emotional and psychological selves to truly come alive,” adds Sarner.
She adds that one solution might be to try to understand ourselves and our feelings.
“I’ve found that it’s much less exhausting to feel angry than to work so hard to be unaware of my anger. It’s a better type of fatigue to cry than straining every muscle in my face, jaw and neck to hold back my tears,” says the psychotherapist.
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Source: www.descopera.ro
