Don’t repeat the habits of emotionally unhealthy people

ANA VIDMAR / magazine Be healthy

28. 11. 2024, 17.00

We often say that emotional wounds hurt us much more than physical wounds, which is not so much from the vine. Because when it comes to physical health, we are much more engaged, but mental health is often forgotten or pushed to the sidelines. But evidence shows that mental problems have just as much impact on our health as physical ones

Just as we diligently take our vitamins, eat a healthy diet, and exercise every day to protect ourselves from illness and other ailments, we should also take care of our emotional well-being. Emotionally extremely healthy people know this, and we reveal some of their habits to you.

Loss control
Nothing humbles us more than defeats and falls in life, and it is good for our emotional health to learn to take control of ourselves and our emotions in moments of defeat. Emotionally healthy people don’t let defeat take away their motivation. Even if doubts and fears arise in us, and our self-confidence is shaken, we should not consider these feelings to be true. It will be of great help to us if we know how to extract all the factors that, despite the defeat, were in our hands, over which we had control and which we could direct in our own way. In this way, we will get the feeling that not all things are out of our hands, and by thinking about improving the strategies that we can control, we will also maintain motivation. That way, defeat won’t make us emotional. It won’t really be a defeat, just an obstacle in the way.

The sense of loss
The difference between those who are able to pick themselves up after a fall and those who are completely paralyzed by the fall is that the former are able to extract meaning from falls, defeats and traumas in life, while the latter are not. Emotionally healthy people know how to find something meaningful in even difficult emotional blows. Everything happens to us for a reason, or everything that happens to us is the cause of who we are. Therefore, we must be able to learn something from every experience, no matter how bad, we must find a lesson and a meaning. Then severe trials do not leave such deep wounds on us.

Relax the rumination

As a rule, we don’t exactly do ourselves a favor by thinking about certain circumstances over and over again and analyzing them in our head, even though it seems to us that this is the only way we can make sense of the things that have happened to us. Most of us have a tendency to dwell on bad events in our heads and look for those details and points where it could break. But the more we do this, the less real insight we have into the situation itself. Due to mental rumination, in the end we feel much worse than at the beginning, we are filled with more and more doubts, we can even fall into depression. Emotionally healthy people do not indulge in rumination and rumination. As soon as they feel themselves being absorbed into the vortex of obsessive rumination, they decide not to think about the matter any more. They simply distract themselves with something else and let the things they cannot control be as they are.

Rejection must be accepted
Rejection does not in any way mean that we are inferior, bad, unloved, losers and the like. This is actually how we mostly feel when we are rejected. And of course, rejection can cause a lot of emotional pain, especially if we blame ourselves for the rejection. But we can prevent it. How? The easiest way to regain our worth after rejection is to pay attention to those qualities that we are proud of and admire in ourselves – qualities such as loyalty, sincerity, hard work and the like. When we convince ourselves that we are not inferior despite the rejection, we will accept the otherwise never very pleasant rejection much more easily.

Overcome loneliness
Despite countless opportunities for friendship and new acquaintances, people today are more lonely than ever before. Loneliness is one of the most common psychological factors affecting our emotional health. And it’s usually our own fault – with excuses like why would I go to a party if I won’t know anyone there, why would I call my friends, if they don’t call me, surely everyone is busy and so on. Emotionally healthy people do not allow themselves to be lonely. If you want to get rid of loneliness, collect all the reasons (excuses) you usually use to avoid society, and then make a decision and make contact with the people with whom you had the best time recently. Make appointments with them and fill your calendar without even once using any of the excuses you’ve made so far. This way you will have a much more varied social life and you will be less lonely.

When we convince ourselves that we are not inferior despite the rejection, we will accept the otherwise never very pleasant rejection much more easily.

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