“I had a client who reported that he would rather not tell at home that the others would corner him and kick him in the hallway, because he was afraid that his parents would be ashamed of him not being able to defend himself,” added the psychologist. Therefore, the victim often does not say anything, because the victim-blaming sentences almost absolve the abusers from taking responsibility and facing the weight of their actions. Of course, this can provoke any reaction from the abused party, there was also a precedent for daily statements such as “you shouldn’t even exist, you look disgusting, you’re disgusting” drove the student to commit suicide.
In the meantime, of course, the abuser’s behavior can also change. “I think it is conceivable that if there is no clear condemnation of abusive behavior, then the perpetrator will become more and more unscrupulous: first he teases quietly, in private, then he finds companions to hurt, and then they also physically insult the victim. It will become more and more daring, because the abuser often gets the feedback that no one judges what he does, that others agree with him, so you can do it to others, since no one tells him because no one tells him,” explained the expert.
Source: magyarnemzet.hu
