She told him that was the end, and as she was leaving, he saw her getting into a car in the distance. A new boyfriend came to get her. What hurt him the most was the multitude of love letters she wrote him, and at the very end she told him she wanted more. He told her that the problem wasn’t the breakup, but the fact that she didn’t love him the way he was. Breaking the relationship for the sake of our deepest essence is the main beginning of our growing up.
Ana didn’t find that something more, and Dado had a hard time accepting the death of ideal romanticism, because that’s how their relationship started and it was shrouded in that veil.
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We could put the blame on Ana because Dado believed in that ideal love, more precisely, that nothing can stop it and that every problem is solvable, at the same time he did not see that he was creating love with his projection, with his inner queen Anima, but at the same time she gave him reason for all that with her letters and deeds.
However, when that ideal moment, the romantic part of ourselves, falls apart, the wound of the Fisher King is born. You walk marked with her because then you start eating from the tree of good and evil, you get to know your opposite.
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Dado read and meditated a lot, and besides, his business was not going well at all. He was almost crawling and in addition to his knowledge, he also had to do physical work. Thus, mythologically, he passed through underground Hades as a true hero or the Sun that appears on the horizon of the East, and before that he passes through the challenges of darkness. Real books killbut they helped him to understand the wound of King Ribar through which a man is initiated, while Ana did not accept that initiation.
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Then get to know from within yourself what is essential for love. As Borges said: “If I could live my life over again, I would try to make more mistakes in the next one.” I wouldn’t try to be so perfect, I would relax more.”
On that path, Dado turned towards the ideal of spirituality, but then he returned to this ordinariness in which he saw more and more life, until he could not remain in perfection because he increasingly hated the human aspect of it.
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After ten years, when he met Ana by chance, even after that she could not speak at all sorry. Dado did not know then that people have no idea why they break up and that weakness is an integral part of ordinariness. When they met after twenty years, Dado realized that people change hard, he saw that he was in love with love, and that Ana remained the same girl she was 20 years ago, but with more bitterness.
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Dado could not erase his ideality from himself because each of us has some wound of the Fisher King (One man and one woman, more about that in the book) that you can’t change. Still, if it wasn’t for that wound or idealization, do you think we’d be digging relationships? Do you think we would take the risks of relationships and passion? Do you think that we would know the limits of spirituality and all those emotions that you objected to your partner, but were inside you?
Dado met his dark part, his queen Anima was divine, and next to him was the imperfect Ana who, on the one hand, was afraid of his perfectionism, knowing that she was not the one, but at the same time she listened to her king – the ego, who thought that the throne of the world belonged to him.
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When Ana became aware of her beauty and when others recognized her as such, then the end of the relationship came, she entered hell or the myth of beautiful women and there was no end to the ego, but thrones fall easily. Dado was not aware of his goddess or female archetype. As Esther Harding says: “It manifests itself as a blind force, fertile and cruel, creative, nurturing and destructive.” The mythical, primordial woman is “wild in both her loves and her hatred. It is the feminine principle in demonic form”.
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Anima has a thousand faces, and Ana was once Aphrodite, but she has no responsibility, she falls in love and when the feeling melts away, she moves on (initial Anima). Dado later saw that Aphrodite was a child and that she did not accept the responsibility of womanhood.
However, Dado then in his ignorance or the black and white world that is characteristic of everyone, in fact, hid the fact that a cruel heart does not forgive that it was misled, but blames the victim or the weak one. Although the victim manipulates his powerlessness, adulthood is a withdrawal and observation from a distance when the ordinariness of people can be enjoyed.
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That was Dad’s way, which says that each of us should recognize our own initiation where romanticism seeks adulthood, where the partner no longer needs to be a god and where each of us can be the unique and different being that makes us our own.
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