You can’t control who you like, though. This is especially true if you have been traumatized by so many narcissistic and toxic men in the past.
You’re so tired of not getting the attention you need in your relationships, so you find it a breath of fresh air to be with someone who gives you all the attention you could ever want.
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You may think that you have actually found the perfect man; someone who makes you the center of his universe.
You’ve been so intimidated and traumatized by egotistical and self-obsessed men in the past that you’ve decided to try an insecure guy.
You think that just because it’s different, it automatically means it’s going to be better. You can assume that you’ve automatically upgraded to a much better situation just because you’re dating someone who’s no longer selfish.
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And while it is true to some extent that you are indeed in a better situation, it does not necessarily mean that you are in a good situation. Getting attached to an insecure man can be very harmful to your well-being and your relationship.
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And you have to make sure to protect yourself at all times. If you find yourself in a relationship with an insecure guy, you need to adjust quickly. You are not in a good situation and you should be able to spot the signs early.
He puts a lot of pressure on your relationship by making it his whole life.
He doesn’t really have anything else for himself, and his sense of self-worth is tied to the two of you staying together.
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They will constantly ask you if you are really over or over your ex-partner.
He will constantly question the reality of your feelings because he doesn’t trust you. It looks like he just can’t bring himself to trust you and that’s why he keeps asking.
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It will be excessive. Yes, you want someone to tell you that they are in love with you. But you always want it to be said in the right place at the right time.
If he tells you that he loves you too soon, it’s just his way of locking you up and binding you to himself. He forces you to tell him the same.
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They will always hunt for your compliments. They will always have a need when it comes to adoration and validation of their own worth.
Yes, he will give you a lot of attention; but he will also ask for a lot of reassurance from you because he does not trust you and – he is not sure of himself.
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He will see himself as someone who can easily be replaced by anyone you might meet. And that’s why he acts very jealous and possessive.
He often acts very paranoid, to the point of wanting to control who you interact with. It looks like he just doesn’t trust you.
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This is a common tactic that many insecure men will force on their women in relationships. They will present themselves as the ultimate weaklings, so their wives will feel compelled to take care of them.
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It’s a guilt-relief technique you should never succumb to. Classic manipulation – playing the victim actually makes you the victim.
So that’s it. Getting a man who is so willing to give you a lot of attention won’t always be a good thing for you.
Remember that in relationships, as in any other aspect of life, you will always need a healthy balance.
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You want a man who is humble enough to know that he needs to share his life with you. But he also needs to be confident and self-assured enough to be his own person outside of a relationship.
Ultimately, you always want to commit to a strong individual who will be able to help carry the weight of the relationship.
You cannot be with someone who is so weak; someone who relies on you to always bear the brunt of the relationship for both of you.
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You will need two able-bodied people to make the relationship work. Neither of you can afford to give in if you want your relationship to last.
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