How too strong desires in a relationship become a shortcut to disappointment

Human behavior is determined by seeking holiness and greatness in something. Sometimes it is religious fanaticism, but also radical materialism. In the background there is always a human desire to worship something in the form of desire.

It’s the same with infatuation, we look for holiness in it, we raise it so high, and then we speak derogatory words about that holy person when the person shows their flaws.

Nikola Žuvelapsychotherapist and astrological advisor

Then there is an overestimation of, for example, a partner, a child, the importance of money, success. When we fail to achieve the mentioned desires, we create frustration in ourselves and compare ourselves with others.

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The deeper the disappointment, the stronger the consequences, which even turn into obsessive compulsive behavior. It manifests itself in preoccupation, such as recurring thoughts about infection or recurring doubts, and aggressive urges.

Desires and disappointments are connected.

If you study the old teachings, you will find the teaching about Lucifer, which incites in people desire, dance, passion, joy, pleasure, but at the same time it erases that feeling in one stroke. Some were reading a book Name of Rose, or watched a movie, where in one part you can find the mentioned aspect of old teaching and fear of evil.

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In our daily life, we constantly encounter the desire that ancient Christianity called evil. Regardless of the interpretation, even today we do not understand how desire brings us into bad or even evil moods. How when you fall in love, you lift your partner to heights, and in the other case he becomes the embodiment of evil?

The problem that is closest to the heart already contains the danger of evil.

For example, you fall in love so much that you start endangering everyone around you. Therefore, one should beware of reckless decisions and enthusiastic radical attitudes. We quietly hope that things will work out in the end, but that is hope. What we call evil or Lucifer (Shadow, Saturn) manifests itself so that he or that in us can use your best and most beautiful act or feeling as a trick to corrupt us, despite our wanting good.

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For example, you have a strong and unbearable desire in which you want to achieve some mission, you are already obsessively caught in the darkness of the dark one in you, because for the sake of good, you will do a lot that will not be to your credit. How much motherly love has led to many children never growing up?

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How much positive wishes, in fact, become demonic deeds?!

The fact is that people are often caught up in obsessive desires and moods, but with much less visible problems, while we notice more those who cross the line, where the desire becomes an obsessive story with consequences.

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Perception of desire and observation of its manifestation, without creating rational constructions, can help in seeing this problem, but we must know that the aids of rational constructions do not help here, which are worthless because emotions are based on subconscious accepted opinions that are constructed on unfulfilled desires.

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You won’t eradicate the desire, but you can understand it.

For example, fall in love with a person, after the experience observe the emotions and expectations and how real these emotions are or are the result of unrealistic wishes in which you are not aware that in that relationship you are looking for a parent, a savior or someone to get you out of the current problem. Maybe you are not aware that your feeling is, in fact, an instant way out of the current situation?!

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This is how you can find out if you are for a real relationship or if you are in narcissistic projections where you are, in fact, in love with yourself, and the partner you fell in love with is just a pendant of your expectations that last until you meet the right person.

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