“I’m a divorce lawyer and here are two main reasons why people get divorced”

Find out what are the two most common factors that cause divorce and how to avoid them to maintain harmony in your relationship.

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When it comes to divorce, two causes often dominate the discussion, says New York divorce attorney James Sexton: infidelity and money.

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In a recent interview with The Diary of a CEO podcast, he explains that these factors are not as simple as they seem. “Infidelity, while often a factor, is only a symptom of a deeper problem,” says Sexton, noting that sexuality within a relationship plays a key role in divorces.

Infidelity: More than just betrayal

Sexton says infidelity is often the result of a lack of emotional and physical satisfaction in a relationship.

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“Men look for quantity and women look for quality,” he says, noting that these differences in desire can create tensions that lead to extramarital affairs. But Sexton cautions against oversimplifying the issue: “Blaming divorce solely on infidelity is too narrow a view.”

In reality, unexpressed frustrations and lack of communication in a relationship are often at the root of infidelity.

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Money: a matter of power and control

Money, another important factor in divorce, is far from a numbers game.

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For Sekton, “money is power, security and opportunity”. When there is a financial imbalance in a relationship, it can lead to conflicts over control and trust. The lawyer points out that couples are not always honest with their partner or with themselves when it comes to money matters. This lack of transparency ultimately undermines the relationship and creates a climate conducive to termination.

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How can these crises be prevented?

To prevent these tensions from leading to divorce, Sexton recommends that couples remain attentive to each other’s needs. “It’s essential to remember why you love your partner,” he says, suggesting simple gestures like writing unexpected love notes. This attention to each other can make a difference and strengthen bonds.