I’ve heard it before from some of my acquaintances – to at least get pregnant in some way, if I can’t have a love partner.
The biological clock is ticking, the pressure of the environment is present, so after the age of 35, panic begins about a potential suitor and the creation of offspring.
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– Why, why the rush? – I ask her.
– Why the rush – he looked at me in amazement, as if he didn’t understand where such a question came from and continued – Well, it’s over, if it doesn’t happen now, when?!
– Can’t it wait a while longer, when it hasn’t happened yet? – I was persistent.
– Well, I don’t know, when, how much longer? – he asked me, looking at me with sad eyes.
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As if she wanted to tell me – I have to be sure that it will happen then and there, so that I know if I can accept it, because I won’t be able to give birth for a little while longer.
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The session was coming to an end, so I just told her that often out of the desire to reach the goal as soon as possible, we somehow drift even further apart. It is a paradox in life, but if we look deeper into things, we will realize that haste creates restlessness, which leads us to make the wrong choice, without asking ourselves about some more important things.
Why can’t I wait a little longer, when I’ve waited so long?
Would having a child “overnight” make me and that child essentially happy?
Who would be the father of that child?
What kind of relationship would I have with him?
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Do I only want a child because I don’t know how to connect well with a man?
Why hasn’t love “happened” to me so far?
Am I sabotaging my connection with someone, and if so, is there a way to deal with it once I’ve already entered the therapeutic process?
I managed to ask her some of these questions along the way, but many are yet to come. For now, she is still focused on the current events in her life (mainly “solving” the feeling of loneliness by meeting a new partner, who is never a good opportunity for something more – because she always finds a flaw in him), so she is happy to share it in the session , leaving no room for my greater action.
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After one session she told me: “I will have to let you say something too.”
When clients come to therapy, they often bring their impatience with them. They want to realize themselves as soon as possible, to solve the situation they are in and the problem that has been bothering them for years. And all this is somehow understandable and human.
The problem arises when they, instead of trying to investigate what they came for, stay with their old mind, which constantly tells them that there is no time and that something must be done.
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But what? – usually not what the therapist suggests, in terms of some exercises, literature, writing and thinking in a different way. That is still pending, because they have “more important” things. Usually what brought them to that position, to hang on to old thoughts or new guys”, to “waste” their time from session to session, instead of taking care of themselves.
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What would be essentially useful is also the most difficult, right?!
In order to reach success and a goal, you must be open to hearing the other side, your therapist, who can help you develop a new path, the one you know the least and which often scares you the most.
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If you are willing to start solving your own fears with my help, in a different, unusual way, feel free to contact me.
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