Tracy Cox reveals to Britain’s DAILYMAIL 10 new sex resolutions to make 2025 your hottest year in bed yet.
Forget New Year’s resolutions to eat healthy, drink less and exercise more. Here are 10 new habits you’ll want to stick to!
For a hotter, sexier 2025, get out and…
GO TO A SEX PARTY
Yes, you two!
Sex parties have something going for them right now: tempting even the most conservative couples.
Killing Kittens, Eureka Club, The Skirt Club, The Torture Garden, Liberti Elite – these days there is a sex party for almost every taste.
Guess who they’re especially popular with?
That’s right – a woman.
Some couples go just to be in an environment where sexy things are happening (check first, but most of the time you can just show up and watch).
Even if you go once, you’ll fill your fantasy banks for months – and feel like you’ve done something daring and exciting.
More and more people are looking outside the traditional model of monogamous relationships, and going to a sex party or club with your partner is also a (relatively) safe way to experiment with how you’ll both react to seeing each other with others.
They are also a safe place to enjoy girl-on-girl love.
SEX CAMPING
Not literally…does good sex require a tent!
Vaginal tent. Bear with me…
In order for women to fully enjoy sex, the vagina needs to be “tented” so that sex feels pleasant.
Unexcited, the vaginal canal is four inches long; excited, it grows at least two inches longer. Muscle tension pulls the uterus up, creating extra space inside for—yes—the penis.
The biggest mistake couples make is thinking that foreplay is a luxury. It is not – it is necessary for the “tent” to be opened and for the woman to enjoy sex.
If your cervix is constantly hitting, if his penis is very long or wide, if you feel dry during sex, if you are prone to small cuts or tears – your vagina does not bend before sex and you are not properly excited, and therefore sex is not a pleasure either. .
EMBRACING YOUR WICKED SIDE
We all have a dark side: a secret little fantasy or something that makes us do things we might be too uncomfortable or nervous to admit.
But if you only ever go along with ‘vanilla’ desires, sex becomes very (very) boring, especially if you’re only having it with one person.
Be brave! Both acknowledge your darker, more macabre quirks and – I promise – you’ll never be bored again.
How to do it? First thing in the morning, turn to your partner and say: “I dreamed that you and I were…”. It’s a surefire way to test your partner’s reaction to trying anything new.
STOP PLAYING THE GREATEST HITS
When you’re with someone for the first time, you try something new every time you have sex.
Once you get into each other’s rhythm and know what works and what doesn’t, you develop a ‘sex shorthand’. You know what makes each other orgasm and exactly which buttons to push.
Sex becomes efficient and satisfying, but also shorter and more focused on orgasm.
Imagine listening to only the greatest hits of your favorite band? You’ll be quiet soon.
Go off the beaten path here and there.
SILENCE YOUR THOUGHTS
This is a question I get asked all the time: How do you stop being distracted during sex, that is, silence your brain? (I forgot to pick up shirts from the dry cleaners/walk the dog/buy butter/cook lunch/take out the trash/get ready for that meeting.)
Here’s the trick: pay attention at the very beginning.
Neurologist Dr. Nicole Prause says the beginning is when it’s easiest to get off track. Once the excitement kicks in, you are taken into the present moment.
She suggests two ways to quell anxiety. First, step up the intensity: try something so new and exciting, who cares if the dog isn’t walked!
Another practical solution: write down everything that’s on your mind right before you realize you’re having sex, and do it (make dinner, do that report).
Another great way to focus? Put on your headphones and play some audio erotica while your partner enjoys you.
TRY YAB-YUM… OR NOT
It sounds like an edible Asian delicacy, instead it’s a name for a sexual position – quite unusual.
He sits cross-legged, you sit on his lap, legs crossed over his hips and on top of his thighs. He rocks back and forth (impossible to push normally with crossed legs).
Sound terrible? I agree. My point is that so are most of the other ‘adventurous’ sex positions we all think we should try.
I’m here to tell you to stop stressing if you only use two or three positions for intercourse. That’s normal!
Most couples alternate between her on top, the missionary, and him from behind. Ignore your friends bragging in the pub, they are as boring as you are just pretending to be important in society. Hunting stories.
Everyone thinks that trying something like yab-yum is a way to spice things up. It’s not. Save your energy for other things like…
BE A QUEEN (MORE THAN) ONE DAY
Every once in a while, something we’ve all done hundreds of times before gets a rebrand.
What used to be known as ‘sitting on someone’s face’ is now ‘face-sitting’ or (even better) ‘Queen’.
Someone did their history homework and discovered that in the Victorian era wealthy women had the ‘Queen’s Chair’.
This was a chair with a hole where she would sit, exposing herself, and the man would lie underneath and please her.
Feminists warmly accept ‘face-sitting’. Why not! You are on top, you own your sexuality, you are in charge and you control your orgasm.
DO NOT FIND YOURSELF ON THE FREQUENCY
Contrary to popular belief, how often you have sex is not what predicts how good your sex life will be. Quality trumps frequency every time.
There are even studies that prove that enjoyment does not increase the more a couple has sex: those who did it daily or at least several times a week were not happier than those who had it once a week.
While there is no perfect frequency for everyone, once a week is the number most studios settle on.
Weekly sex brings all the health benefits, keeps you connected, and most people are satisfied.
DON’T FIGHT YOUR AGE
The flesh might weaken, but there is no time limit to the desire.
‘At what age do you stop wanting sex?’ is something I get asked a lot. The answer is any year or never.
Many people stop wanting sex when they are very young: they try it and it just isn’t for them. Others are asexual and never want sex. The lucky percentage reaches about 90 and still rates it as his favorite thing.
There is no mental age when a craving ends, but there are certain factors that predict how long it is likely to last. If you have a strong, natural libido, if you WANT to keep having sex, do it regularly, and are willing to rethink what defines ‘sex’, chances are you’ll be that horny 90-year-old.
Sex based on foreplay: the use of hands, tongue and toys is limited only by your imagination.
FANTASE FREE WITHOUT GUILT
Eighty-five percent of people in long-term relationships fantasized about other people while having sex with their partner.
Far from being something to be ashamed of, evil thoughts about others can save your relationship.
Being in love doesn’t make you blind – the world is still full of attractive people. It’s normal to wonder what sex is like with other people – and my advice is, go ahead and do it! The only rule is: keep all actions in your head.
Not only is fantasy an effective way to satisfy your sex itch, but it’s also a great way to make monogamous sex much more interesting. Do it guilt-free.
Fantasy is nothing more than whimsical desire and most experts reject the idea that hot thoughts lead to betrayal.
Source: www.sitoireseto.com
