“Before I was 37, I had never had sex. I went to a top business school, is I am very successful professionally. I have loving parents and many friends. Ihad already been in love, but we can say that is n’had Never materialized. To 37 ansI almost got burned out and is “I told myself that this couldn’t go on like this,” explains Jérôme, during his first consultation with the sexologist.
The first time I had no erection
In my company, I started to get close to a young woman and she came to my house one evening. Is I suggested she sleep in my bed and I on the couch! The next day, in my underwear, she jumped on me.
I was so surprised that I sort of disconnected. Is felt no desire and is I don’t have eu no erection. Is think that is I upset her and she wouldn’t want to see me again. However, is explained to him that Ihad probably drunk too much, that I was tired…
It was wrong, but Ihad Frankly ashamed to say that it was my first time, because she is a free young woman.
I got through it with the help of treatment
I consulted my GP who prescribed me an erection medication. I saw Céline again, and with this treatment, the relation sexual went well. And I continued to take this medicine in secret.
Then, Celine became less and less attentive. She had Never of desire when I have it hadand if Never My erection wasn’t great, she complained. And then, she wanted to go out and not to form a couple or have children. While I want to build. So we broke up.
Now I’m afraid of meeting another woman and continuing to be forced to take medication. And I feel like I have no desire anymore and I’m afraid of meeting someone… Is still having nightmares about my first time!
Sexologist’s advice
After this first meeting, I practiced with Jérôme four sessions of EMDR, a therapy method to help the mind classify these events in the past. He felt much more relaxed and his desire returned.
Is I also explained to him that:
- When a man has not eu of relation sexual For a long time, it is normal to have a breakdown. The medicine serves as a starter.
- When a partner is not supportive, the penis can “go on strike” and refuse to make love. This is normal, it is even a protection to avoid personalities who could do harm.
- You should try to meet another young woman with the same plans as him. And at first, take erection pills, without telling him about it, then reduce the dose and stop when he feels confident.
Third consultation six months later
Jérôme signed up for an acrobatic rock class where he met a lovely young woman. The first time, she just wanted cuddles to take her time. Jérôme was reassured, he felt confident and everything was natural after that. And they are already talking about moving in together…
Our expert: Dr. Catherine Solano, sexologist and andrologist at Cochin Hospital (AP-HP) in Paris, co-founder of Doctical
Source: www.topsante.com
