What makes you wonder out loud? What you find beautiful tells about your identity.
– In terms of your true self, it is important to recognize what you like and create, for example, a home that is pleasant, so that it is good to be there, Psychologist, Psychotherapist Hanna Pesola says.
It is also part of your identity that you know your own values. Is beauty important to you or not – and why?
In positive psychology, the sense of beauty, i.e. the ability to appreciate beauty and beautiful things, is one of the character strengths that support well-being, such as gratitude or honesty.
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Pesola combines a sense of beauty with sensitivity. The sensitive knows beauty deeply.
A tool for caring
According to Johanna Pesola, the whole point of the beauty theme is appreciation.
– If the opposite of love is indifference, then love means that things and environments matter. For example, when you invite guests, you set the buns nicely on the table and you might choose napkins instead of a paper towel roll. By investing in a moment of coffee, you show your guest that he is expected.
Aesthetics should also be taken into account in workplaces. Convenience means that colleagues and customers are cared about.
– It matters how it looks in the work environment, because how it looks is how it feels.
Pesola sees the connection of a feel-good environment to motivation and the ability to learn, relax and be inspired. In addition, beauty affects the mood: it calms and brings joy.
The antidote to execution
When we experience something we think is beautiful, we stop by it. Without realizing it, we are then doing good for ourselves. We need to stop to feel well.
– Especially in this day and age, when performance is what is valued and because of which people get exhausted and tired. When running, you can’t see around and especially not inside.
Pesola invites you to stop, wonder and be amazed.
It’s easier in nature, because we go to nature to calm down.
You can even exercise by the beautiful scenery. Where do the tears come from?
From returning to the core experience, to a really familiar state of being.
– As if back home or to a moment when you were a little baby and everything was big but good. In the forest, I feel small enough to support nature. It is incredibly nutritious. It moves.
At the same time, you can catch up with the flow of life by being present in yourself with your emotions and days. Presence is the antidote to execution and emotional blockages that can cause a feeling of alienation from life.
What are you allowing yourself?
If aesthetics is an important value for you and brings you joy, then why not allow yourself that, says Johanna Pesola. He says that he had to wonder if the objects are just an attempt to show others something. But the thought was not true.
– I would get pleasure from a stylish table, even if no one would ever visit our house and see it. Allowing means valuing yourself. The opposite of toxic shame.
Beliefs may be the reason for the inadmissibility. Therefore questionable. In the end, whose voice, expression or essence is it that criticizes using jewelry as a way to flaunt it? Maybe mother’s or father’s… The generation going to therapy has a lot of beliefs to clean up.
– The majority of the previous generation has not allowed themselves much of anything. Belief systems can be really tight, and they have to be faced and opened. Explaining and apologizing is replaced by peace: I can enjoy the beauty.
– Inner beauty comes from having found your own identity and being at peace with yourself.
Expert Johanna Pesola psychologist, psychotherapist.
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