“The power of thought works” – News Svet24

At the age of 36, she has moved more than 33 times, survived sexual abuse, burned herself twice, overcame pancreatic cancer, had part of her intestine, spleen, appendix and ovary removed due to extensive endiometrosis and three surgeries. She has been a diabetic patient for 27 years. She changed many jobs, experienced poverty and wealth. She has created and lost a house three times in the past. But she says that she wouldn’t change anything, as she has gained invaluable experience and knowledge and is now where she always wanted to be. Finally loved and fulfilled in private as well as professional life.

In the debut Trust life describes how she overcame the limiting beliefs that had always crippled her. For her, writing is excellent therapy and self-reflection. That’s how part of the diary entries ended up in the book. »Beliefs and patterns that harm us are worth transforming and creating new ones, because we have a huge source of strength and the ability to transcend ourselves. The power of thought works,” encourages the interlocutor, who is also close to fine arts.

From abuse to disease

It is not difficult for Tamara to talk about her journey. She believes that stories are healing and that it is important to read them; maybe we get some useful insight. Already in her youth, she experienced sexual and psychological abuse, later she was in unhealthy partner relationships. One of the partners she lived with humiliated her, did not allow her to eat because she did not deserve it, urinated and defecated on her. »I allowed all this because I didn’t like myself. Unfortunately, success, smarts and general awareness do not help to respect, love, appreciate and say no, even when someone crosses the line greatly.«

Tamara, addicted to drama, sought professional help and began to build a relationship with herself, inner stability and healthy self-worth. »If someone has been abused, I advise them to seek help and find their way back to themselves and get back on their feet.” to remind that we don’t need drama. Experience has given her the wisdom to not convince anyone of anything anymore. He says that when a person notices and really feels that a different path is possible, he is ready to change. “A person truly understands and grasps something fully only when he gains experience“, he emphasizes.

Illnesses were a great trial in Tamara’s life. She has had diabetes for 27 years, she used to be quite angry with her, but now she sees her as a friend. »I probably would have decided to have a child before, with a partner who was not suitable at all, so now I am grateful that I was careful and I have her as an ally.«

When she was diagnosed with salivary gland cancer before the age of 30, which happens to only two percent of people, she released her fear of death. »I let myself go and said to myself: God already knows what is best for me. I surrendered, but on the other hand I believed deep inside that my time had not yet come, trusted and experienced a strong sense of inner peace. Inner peace is the most important thing for me, when I am calm, I can create everything, including health,” he explains. »With a deeply rooted sense of trust, it’s easier because you don’t allow anyone or anything from around you to influence your inner world. Doubt just doesn’t come that close to you.«

A five-centimeter malignant tumor on her salivary gland and half of her salivary gland were excised, her spleen was also removed, and later her appendix and ovary due to extensive endometriosis. Six years have passed since the first operation and she is still healthy.

Grateful and happy that it is

»When you transcend limiting beliefs, remove harmful patterns, beliefs and addictions, when you build self-worth, everything changes. You trust life and move forward anew. Easy, you no longer worry about how it will be, you don’t force when it will be, and you have no idea who it will be with,” explains how he lives now. She says she is grateful and happy that she is. Life also rewarded her. »When I let go of my expectations and demands on life and when I felt in myself that it is okay even if I am single all my life, the story of a sincere and devoted partnership happened. He and his partner arrived in a new home, a new house, for which this time I did not contribute a single euro. An abundance of all forms arrived, light and hearty.” Tamara now lives a conscious, healthy and full life, creates and works between Slovenia and Austria.

Logotherapy etc. Cvijeta Pahljina, what they showed her

When Tamara was still working as a successful insurance agent, she was looking for a new path that would give her life meaning. She earned great money, but there was no real happiness and satisfaction. Enrollment in the study of logotherapy, a field of psychotherapy founded by a Viennese psychotherapist and neurologist Viktor Franklwas one of the paths he perceives as essential in life. Logotherapy teaches us to search for the meaning of life, and she learned all this with a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist The flowers of Pahljina. She slowly processed the traumas, changed her personality, and was a support to her even when she got cancer. »Whenever I asked her how to solve a problem or face a fear, she was able to combine professional knowledge, humor in just one sentence and trigger a click in me that always led me to a solution. Through everyday life situations, she taught me self-transcendence, listening to others, persistence, I admired her way of finding the right way even for difficult things,” he remembers with gratitude.