Tracy Cox reveals eight steps that will lead to multiple orgasms (and promises better climaxes even if you fail!)
British sex expert Tracey Cox shares her tips for achieving multiple orgasms with DAILYMAIL.
Just as many couples do not try to have simultaneous orgasms, multiple orgasms do not appeal to everyone.
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Not everyone wants, or has time for, the long, drawn-out sex session that is usually necessary to produce them.
But even if you don’t think multiples are your favorite treat, doing the following will result in a better quality orgasm—and who doesn’t want more of that.
Here’s how…
#1 It matters how you breathe
Some experts say that holding your breath during orgasm heightens the sensation, others say that if you starve your brain of oxygen, it forces oxygenated blood to flow to it and away from your genitals. (Not good: you need a lot of blood in your genitals to peak.)
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Devotees of spiritual sex recommend continuing to breathe deeply through orgasm, claiming that this means you are more likely to be able to experience another orgasm.
While even more experts say that if you want to feel your orgasm over a wider area, start with regular deep breaths and then start panting just before orgasm. Who is right? It’s about what works for you, so try everything.
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Why don’t multiple orgasms happen naturally?
There are people who can achieve this (although certainly not that often), and maybe you can too, at the beginning of a relationship when the desire is extremely strong.
As your bodies get used to each other, the hormones that make sex more intense begin to decrease. Evolution has done its thing: you’ve had a lot of sex with this person and hopefully you’ve had a baby.
If for some people one orgasm becomes more work over time, it is more difficult for almost all of us to have two.
After you ‘take the blade’, our nerve endings become desensitized, we are often emotionally satisfied and our bodies begin to flood with hormones designed to make us believe that once is enough. While you might want to make love all night, your body probably doesn’t.
Researchers from a German university believe that prolactin – a hormone linked to the production of sperm and breast milk – can flood the body after orgasm, signaling the body that it’s had enough.
Measuring hormone levels in women who were asked to masturbate until orgasm (don’t quit your day job, the researchers are paid a pittance), the researchers found increases in several hormones, but the increase in prolactin was the most dramatic and the longest.
Since prolactin regulates dopamine – a neurotransmitter that plays a role in managing pleasure and pain – it may be that this wave acts as a kind of “switch” that signals the brain that it’s time for sleep rather than action. Since both sexes release prolactin, it is believed that the same process occurs in men.
#2 Know your anatomy
Most orgasms follow a similar pattern. But they vary enough between individuals to ensure that we all have our own “orgasm fingerprint”.
One theory about the female orgasm is that there are two different nerves responsible for two different ‘primary’ orgasms (clitoral and front wall).
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The pudendal nerve goes to the clitoris, and the pelvic nerve goes to the vagina and uterus.
Since the pudendal has more nerve endings, this could be the reason why women have more clitoral than vaginal orgasms.
The two nerves overlap in the spinal cord – which may explain why women can experience “mixed” orgasms (clitoral and vaginal (front wall) at the same time).
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#3 Take control of what you can
Several factors seem to influence whether women have both multiple and vaginal orgasms: the strength of their PC muscles (more on that later), the sensitivity of their anterior vaginal wall (just below your belly), and the motivation to keep trying different stimulations and orgasms triggers.
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You have control over most of these factors – and one key one.
The more ways you are able to orgasm (via masturbation, oral, front wall, etc.), the more likely you are to experience multiple orgasms.
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If you have a (bad) habit of experiencing most of your orgasms in the same way – with your partner’s tongue, fingers or vibrator – start changing it.
Stop experiencing orgasms in the usual way and just use a different technique. It takes time for your body to retrain, but it will happen.
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#4 Get into training
You know what’s coming. Yes, they are ‘kegel exercises’. An exercise routine for the muscles inside your vagina.
The PC muscle supports the pelvic floor and ‘spasms’ during orgasm.
Like the rest of your body, if it’s toned and fit, it works better – pumping even more blood into the pelvis (great for arousal) and making stronger contractions (providing longer, more intense orgasms).
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Yes, it’s another thing to add to the to-do list, but luckily, the exercises only take a few minutes and you can do them anywhere.
Simply squeeze the muscle you use to hold urine, hold for two seconds, then release. Do this 20 times, three times a day.
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#5 Practice peaking techniques
Climaxing involves bringing yourself almost to the point of orgasm, waiting for your arousal to subside, and then climbing again.
This trains you to stay in a high state of arousal, following a wave-like orgasm pattern, instead of one that starts at the bottom and keeps climbing higher.
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Not only does this optimize the release of endorphins, which feel amazing, but it teaches your body to stay in a virtually permanent zone of orgasmic pleasure, capable of orgasming again and again.
What is multiple orgasm?
There is no official definition, but orgasms that fall into the following categories could qualify as such.
Consecutive orgasms: orgasms that occur quickly in succession, from a few seconds to a few minutes apart.
Sequential orgasms: Orgasms that are spaced out over time. You climax, stop the stimulation for a bit, then move on to another.
Prolonged Orgasms: You remain in a continuous state of orgasmic pleasure for a long period of time.
Do women have multiple orgasms more than men?
That. The reason why is that we don’t have a ‘refractory period’ – the recovery phase after orgasm when it is physically impossible to experience another orgasm.
About 10-15 percent of women regularly experience multiple orgasms; between 30 and 50 percent say they have experienced it at least once. Only five to ten percent of men reported having multiple orgasms.
#6 Give yourself time
The longer the action, the stronger the reaction.
There is good evidence that the strength of your orgasm depends on the length of foreplay and other erotic stimulation involved.
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While most of us can masturbate to orgasm in a few minutes (especially when using a vibrator), the pleasure during partner sex is when you’re hovering at the ‘plateau’ stage (post-arousal and pre-orgasm stage) before you topple over.
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#7 Intentionally develop orgasm triggers
The more your brain travels along a certain path neurologically, the easier it becomes to reach orgasm.
Curving your lips up tells your brain that you’re happy, which triggers the release of serotonin, the hormone that makes you feel and look happy. The more signs of impending orgasm your brain can recognize, the easier it will be to trigger an orgasmic response.
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Focus on what you naturally do to orgasm, then exaggerate it. If you breathe harder and faster, breathe even harder the next time you peak. If you notice that your toes are tight and your head is thrown back, do it.
Get to the point where your brain thinks ‘Aha! Deep heavy breathing combined with bending of the fingers means that he is about to orgasm. You better go and do it then!’.
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Do this and orgasm will become effortless and spontaneous.
#8 Use different stimulation for each orgasm
After your first orgasm, your body may be temporarily desensitized to the form of stimulation you are using. If you have sex for the first time, you are more likely to have second oral sex than through more penetrating sex because you are stimulating a different area.
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The third could be achieved by being complacent – it will be the hardest to have, so call in an expert (you).
Mixing different types of stimulation is often the key to inducing multiple orgasms. Use the vibrator next to your partner’s fingers; add fingers to tongue stimulation. Anything that adds an extra erotic jolt can do the trick.
Source: www.sitoireseto.com
