Why can’t I find love? Maybe it’s because you’re lusting after the wrong men, so you can’t see the forest through the trees. Here are the signs that point to it, as well as tips on how to get out of it.
Do you often wonder why I can’t find love? While the wrong stories are lined up one after the other, what makes you lose hope and desire to re-engage in the search for a new, this time, real partner who will satisfy all your true needs, hopes and desires? While the years go by inexorably…
It could be bad luck, but it could also be your fault. Stop, right there, at this moment. You are not missing anything, everything is fine with you. The error we’re talking about is an error in choice, not in your code. Maybe you’re just following the wrong guidelines.
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You know when you get on the wrong bus, all the stops are wrong and it’s quite normal that under the circumstances you can’t get off at any of them because none of them are yours.
Ask yourself: isn’t it a coincidence that my stories always end (badly) because I chose the wrong men?
Or, also: do I attract the wrong men or am I the one who chooses the ones I can’t be with?
If your dark knights are of the same type and inevitably break your heart after a few months, you may have become entangled in a tangle of false stories where you think you deserve nothing better.
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Well, we tell you that it is not so and why you should stop making excuses to throw yourself into the arms of the wrong and how to get rid of the prejudices in your head that do not allow you to be happy.
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We have identified the main attitudes responsible for unhappiness in love – those that depend on you firsthand.
Read them, recognize which ones belong to you and consciously decide to change. Staying away from what will never make you happy before you think you’ll find someone who can.
It almost seems that you don’t want to learn from your mistakes: when the wrong story closes, you start looking for exactly the same type of man, and so with small changes the cycle repeats itself identically, without evolution. And there is no revolution without evolution!
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You meet a new man, you start dating him and when you start talking about him with your friends, they know that he is an exact copy of the one who broke your heart, he probably has the same hairstyle and the same hobbies.
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Break this chain, you will not transform him into something he is not by eating away at you, you will only continue to hurt yourself and suffer endlessly.
You are the victim of a self-destructive desire for challenge. Problematic, oversensitive, selfish people are not special, the “he is different” theory should have died after the second year of high school.
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Every person in this world is really special and we all went through more or less difficult moments in our life, BUT the one who uses pain and suffering to get a woman to bed or who plays the role of a bad guy thinking that he gains charm and specialness by doing so, is simply just uncertain.
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You could certainly fall in love with him, but think for a moment that often the simplest things make you the happiest. And love yourself.
The problem is that you have somehow become addicted to the love drama.
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You don’t respond to those who court you in a normal way, and you have a radar for trouble: if a crazy person appears within a hundred kilometers, you can easily smell him and track him down.
It is not easy to achieve a healthy and normal relationship, if you put your own into it, it becomes even more difficult.
“He looks like a jerk, but in reality…”
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It doesn’t matter if he seems like a kind and tortured soul to you, it doesn’t matter if he told you that when he was a child in daycare all his snacks were stolen, if he treats you badly, if he makes you feel bad, know that he is not a person to you should not take his side and defend him with slices of salami over your eyes in front of your friends and relatives.
You’re just going to get into trouble sooner or later.
what are you – superwoman?! An unexpected force that appears out of nowhere and solves all his problems, without you even finishing medical school?!
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He is sick, suffering and you have decided to be his salvation, the light at the end of the tunnel, the beacon in the night, the angel of his dark nights, so that when he realizes that you saved him, he will dedicate a novel to you, in three volumes, and you will remain immortal throughout the ages.
Too bad it doesn’t work out that way.
Trying to save him won’t make you any more special and won’t make him more attached to you. It is not a healthy love based on dependence and as Rihanna says “we found love in a dead end”.
I love you, you love me, but we can’t be together and that’s why we suffer together and write e-mails and messages on four pages where we state the reasons for our endless suffering.
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You shouldn’t become addicted to these kinds of love desires, you weren’t born in a nineteenth century novel and you shouldn’t want to be a romantic heroine who spends her days consuming paper soaked in her tears.
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Good morning, woman, wake up!
Look for something possible, don’t fall in love with problems, complications, look for someone who is there for you and start thinking that you deserve it.
Certainty does not kill love, because knowing that he is a person for you, who exists, exists right next to you and will always be there whenever you need him, as a support, a support, for better or for worse, does not mean getting into a routine, not necessarily something boring.
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Do you really want to never be sure if he will answer your text or call? And that you never know where he is and who he is with?
Saying that he has the same problems as you, and that you are attracted to what is wrong with him, means that you still haven’t solved your problems.
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You will never find happiness if what you are looking for is someone who shares with you the same problems and discomfort: first you should try to be a calm person, to honestly face your pain, traumas and problems, and make room for good and healthy things, only then you can welcome someone who will make you happy.
First, you need to make yourself happy, and only then seek happiness as a couple.
Using the “I’m weird too, I can’t find normal” excuse won’t get you anywhere.
You are probably a bit eccentric, but people in this world are not all the same, we all have our own eccentricities and special requirements, but that doesn’t mean you deserve stories that only make you suffer.
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Stop thinking that a harmonious, quiet and peaceful story is not for you and that it is a symptom of boring and bourgeois normality: people meet, choose and recognize, and you do not always have to choose the self-destructive way of your emotional satisfaction, you do not deserve to suffer and that does not make it special.
No, it’s not fun anymore to have fun with a troubled guy, maybe for a few nights, but if you’re looking for something more stable, if you want someone who loves you, you’ll end up feeling bad again, crying bitterly and lamenting your hopeless fate.
Isn’t it much better to meet a quiet guy who wants to watch a Netflix movie marathon with you?
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Forget about those who want to make another woman their princess every night. Better to be queen of the couch than princess for one night.
How long will you be satisfied with collecting crumbs under the table, when you can have the whole loaf for yourself?
Source: www.sitoireseto.com
