Well, now, its parody has appeared in different variants – what today’s consumer society markets, phones, fancy “toys”, shopping and hoarding of various unnecessary things.
Many people today spend their time scrolling pages on social networks, uploading selfies to Instagram, tracking likes and comments.
It turns out that sex, love and Maslov are long gone dated.
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But sex and love are real phenomena, although more and more people are unconsciously renouncing them. Despite the “suffering” that exists because of it, people too often seem to have “more important” priorities.
While we were talking about similar things, one of my friends told me that the entire growing economy is not based on real, but on false needs – if you are “hungry” and need food or love or sex, etc., you take some unnecessary item of clothing, a new phone or a BMW, even though you have a choice of what to wear, a phone and a car that serve you perfectly well.
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Instead of satisfying your “hunger” with nutritious things, you choose something to be “in” – to raise your image, to present yourself on Instagram, to maintain some social status. And thus fed their ego, instead of themselves.
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Today, something similar is happening with love and sexual needs.
Many still consider them important, but in practice they are neglected. More and more often I meet people who “don’t” have time for real love and sex because of work, short deadlines, children, movies, phones. And this also happens to young people, who should be in full force.
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Some have marital disagreements, some don’t have a partner, but even without that, globally, sexual desire weakens, due to stress and a busy life. Everyone complains about being tired and not having enough time to relax. Everyone needs a break to feel sexy, horny and desirable.
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There are no shortcuts in psychosexual therapy, but what always helps is a schedule for love-sexual interactions with your partner.
When I mention this conscious and planned approach to my clients, I immediately encounter resistance.
Shouldn’t sex be spontaneous? How can planned sex be good, when that charm is lost and it becomes routine?
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Well, yes, I answer them, but spontaneity is achieved when we make a conscious effort to make things work as they should. Otherwise, many weeks pass without sex, intimacy, closeness. Will you settle for that frequency, will you achieve the closeness you need? In this way, people rather fall into abstinence from sex and dissatisfaction with such a life, than feel the fulfillment of living.
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Novak Djokovic is a good example of that. When he was learning tennis, going to various competitions, and especially later when he was trying to beat Nadal and Federer, there was no such spontaneity, but over time he came to it.
He reduced his anger, mastered his feelings in critical moments and became much more fluent in the game because, with a new, conscious approach, he first pushed his own limits – he believed that he could defeat them, and it came true. When that happened, things became much more spontaneous.
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You must be thinking that maybe this is not the best example, because it is a sport, a competition, and in love and sex, different rules should apply. I agree, but in your head, too, there is a “wall” called planned sex. Planned sex is not necessarily bad sex.
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In modern life, many things are planned: when we travel somewhere, when we go to lunch, celebrate an event, plan a vacation, etc. Why should the beauty of all these events be diminished if it was planned? Why should sex be any different?
My experience says that people still haven’t realized how to be spontaneous “Now and Here”, in the moment, despite the principle plan and schedule. The reason for all this is the lack of awareness and sexual knowledge.
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My clients are unable to be spontaneous due to fear and dysfunction in sex. And that has nothing to do with planning.
There must be a basic schedule of daily activities and time for intimacy.
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One of the biggest myths in the field of sexuality reads: Sex is only good when no words are used and there is no planning.
Why don’t you investigate how accurate all of this is? Why would you be a slave to that myth?
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Provide the context, a good relationship with yourself and your partner, a romantic atmosphere, start slowly with the foreplay to relax and you will slip into spontaneous sex.
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Sometimes it takes more time to understand this concept, especially if you have strong resistance or some sexual problem. But what is important for you to understand is that the right needs cannot be recognized and satisfied if you spend time satisfying the wrong needs.
Don’t be a hypocrite, just say that sex and love are important, try to make a little commitment to their flourishing. It is a very important art that is acquired and developed.
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By planning, you can meet the real needs, because otherwise they will overpower the others.
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